Importance
of Premarital Planning
There are a number of reasons as to why Premarital Planning is important.
First, it allows for two people to discover each other and not just about each other. In a society where everyone is in a hurry, no matter how much love exists between two people, unless that potential is given time, focus and specific commitments to attain, it remains a theoretical potential rather than a concrete experiential reality. In such relationships, the romantic days of when two people fell in love soon fade into memory, the lack of concrete objectives translates into an unbearable vacuum, and somehow it seems that the partners ‘fall out of love.’ It is no wonder that 50% of marriages fail within two years because partners find ‘irreconcilable differences’ between them. Precommitment Planning helps the couple turn their potential into real steps towards growth, cooperation, sharing and developing a life-long fulfilling relationship.
Second, planning together a future is what keeps a couple together, cooperating and supporting each other, and even learning to be compassionate towards each other. No matter how similar two people’s background may be, there is no way of knowing whether their vision of the future is similar unless these persons consciously share their vision of the future and discuss their expectations of each other. Premarital Planning helps people accomplish this by addressing a wide variety of important issues that form a relationship. In addition, the expert guidance by the third party facilitates the couple’s ability to address sensitive issues and discuss them in a supportive manner.
Premarital Planning has another important consequence that couples do not appreciate until later on in life, and it is this: It allows the couple to appreciate their growing love and relationship for and with each other! This gives the couple a sense of progress and accomplishment in life. It helps them see how their investment of life, love and caring in the relationship resulted not only in a family, home and even greater material riches, but also that deep sense of trust and belief in each other and of a greater Truth in life that bare eyes cannot see. It is this trust that turns happiness in a relationship into fulfillment, and turns a life long relationship into an eternal one!
Third, Premarital Planning opens the door for greater opportunity and openness to discuss issues in a relationship after marriage. As couples discuss issues prior to their commitment, they can disagree about even the most sensitive issues and yet discuss them with ease. In this way, after the commitment is made, the couple is no longer ‘blindsided’ by issues and views they did not know about. They are better able to adapt to existing challenges and options. This is especially true for couples who will have to balance their relationship, family, cultural background and career. For these couples, Premarital Planning can be the insurance they need to face and successfully overcome future difficult circumstances.
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