Compiled
by Dér Stépanos Dingilian, Ph. D. © 2002
“So what are the Armenian men looking for in a woman?” asked a reader
after reading that Armenian women first and foremost said they look for a
‘Godly man,’ a man who has a sense of values, beliefs, and can keep a
commitment. During the same July
27, 2002 Seminar / Workshop held at Irvine Valley College, in Irvine, California
guided by Rev. Fr. Stépanos Dingilian, the men also voiced their opinion as to
the top five characteristics that they are looking for in a woman. Here are these characteristics.
1. Looking for intellect and common sense – The men said
that they are looking for an intelligent woman with whom they can discuss
matters. By ‘intelligent’ they
mean someone who can hold and sustain an intelligent conversation and discuss
various matters in depth . . . "someone to speak with intelligently."
This does not mean that a woman has to have a high IQ or a Ph.D., but
rather must care about various personal, family, and social issues, and be able
to discuss them in a reasonable manner.
2. A person who cares about how she presents herself –
The men said how a woman presents herself is most important.
This ‘presentation,’ in their thinking, is a reflection of how the
woman feels about herself. It includes how well the woman takes care of herself, how she
maintains her appearance, and how she talks and listens to others.
Apparently, there is an important balance that must be maintained which
is very much dependent on an individual man’s viewpoint.
Interestingly, the men suggested that a woman should also look for a man
who has this balance in his life as well.
3. Looking for a positive attitude – Having a positive
and being enthusiastic towards fellow humans and life in general is very
important for these men. Life is
stressful and challenging, and a soul mate must help face, deal with, and
overcome these challenges and the stressful situations associated with them.
“It is by facing adversities in a positive way and as a team that two
people grow close to each other,” suggested these men.
4. Looking for similar values – “There is no question
that my soul mate must have values similar to mine,” the men stated.
Their statement implied two necessities: First, the woman must have some
values, and second, her values must be compatible with his.
5. She must be interested in growth – The men definitely insisted that a woman must want to grow, progress, and become a better person in life. “She cannot simply want to visit and drink coffee all day, or just have fun without a sense of ambition,” one person stated. She must want, plan for, and expend effort at growing mentally and spiritually.
This and similar reports can be found in the quarterly periodical by the same name and can be obtained either by sending an e-mail to drstepanos@aol.com, or writing to Hope for the Family, P.O. Box 54222, Irvine, CA 92619-4222.
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