Anger and turbulence as signs of change
The root discussion by some modern psychologists is that
the teen years do not have to be turbulent and in fact are not so, as mentioned
above. But why does it matter, if at
all? Is it a matter of observation
or an attempt to justify that anger and turbulence should not exist in human
relationships? So we really have to
ask ourselves, especially as parents: Are anger and turbulence in the teen years
‘good’ signs or ‘bad’ ones?
It seems that anger, turbulence, or rebellion in a
relationship are seen as negative signs.
Grant you, no parent wants to listen to the teen’s temper tantrums, and
go through the guilt of a youngster saying that we as parents have not done a
good job. However, if we as parents
understood why the youngsters are angry and turbulent, and why they focus their
anger towards us, then we would be in a better position to respond to their
needs. After we spend a stressful
day dealing with their anxieties and criticisms, we will have a greater sense of
fulfillment because we will realize that the young ones are growing into adults.